I am not a Imposer, I am only a man that loves wearing women’s clothing especially panties and bras. I doubt if I’ll ever see the day when men like me will be able to openly wear (women’s clothing) out in the open with out being ridiculed. It is comming around slowly were men will be able to wear what ever we want to just like women can.
I never feel like an imposter, I am who I am. That person is truly a twin spirit both male and female. Because my physical body is male that is easier to present and it is what people expect. But it is with great amounts of time and self examination and understanding who I am that I add more female clothing. From my perspective, it is an adjustment for both, self and whom is around you. If items get added slowly, those around you may ask questions or not, but it will become far less shocking when you show up completely dressed as the other sex. At least this is how I see it. The relationship with self is difficult, I started with panties years ago, necessity brought on the bras, then the jeans and or leggings and some tops. My nails are done all the time now, both toes and fingers and I love it and almost no one says a word about it. They are not neutral shades either! I Do oranges, greens, teals etc, always bright colors and seldom dark. For me the colors should help show who you are! FWIW, this summer, I am starting to experiment with skirts occasionally. It is HOT and if you have not tried a skirt, there is nothing like a breeze blowing up your skirt! The thinner the material the better! Between the soft flowing fabric flowing over your skin and the breeze, there is nothing like it! The colors I pick are manly, lots of black, some kaki cargo skirts and a few jean skirts varying lengths.
Be you!
Peace and love!
Maddi
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I felt exactly this way when I was adding clothing, doing nails and using earrings before my formal transition. I wore skirts at every opportunity on vacation (no one would know me, etc), and finally began dressing in my home town in skirts and blouses.
I had the privilege that I could retreat to male days when I felt insecure, which was good for a long time. I did this for 7 or 8 years before I felt that it wasn’t enough for me. When I realized that I needed to do more, I researched HRT therapy and started just over 2 years ago. This helped me feel better again, but having the beard started to feel wrong.
So at Christmas I shaved off my beard permanently, and I am starting electrolysis in a week. I formally declared my public transition at the beginning of April, and yesterday, my name change became legal!
I think we all should do what makes us more happy, and follow that instinct. For me, I am now a woman in society, and feeling better than I have ever have in my life! I am now mostly aligned with the inner person that I have suppressed for over 60 years. It can be great to take small steps over time and feel the result. Nothing is irreversible until you add medical interventions.
MtF Over 65. Supportive wife. Canada. 36B+. She/Her. Living full time as a woman.
I’ve finally settled into “I am who I am” but, that doesn’t account for the really bad feelings I’ve had along the way. I’ve tried to put away those desires and it only makes them worse. now, my wife knows, just puts up with it and possibly my daughters know although no conversation has ever happened between us all. while I might not dress all en femme, I do appreciate the support, the hug and the overall joy and comfort I get from a bra. actually, kind of depressing to take my bra off.
Different days bring different feelings. One day I feel all girly and proud of myself for having a great profile in the mirror. Happy to be wearing a bra and other things. Applying makeup (poorly). Other days, I’m proud of myself for just wearing a bra and panties, being out in the world, experiencing my own sense of being. Other days, I’m proud of myself for skipping the bra, going with what I was born into, being sensitive to the things I’ve learned from experiencing those other days. I’ve thought about transitioning, but it doesn’t drive me. So, “Imposter”? No. I’m just me and I like the person(s) I’ve been over the years, who I am in the present, and I trust I’ll like who I am tomorrow or next year.
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Today is a ‘no make-up day’, and just my hair done, tee, and shorts.
I wear make-up almost everyday and I’m taking a break.
I only have a late lunch planned at the salad bar buffet, so nothing really important going on besides sewing shirts.
Imposter? No, not really. I would only feel like an impostor if I was dressing back in guy mode like I used to.
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