Looking back on this year I can’t imagine ever being so content and comfortable wearing things I wear now. Perhaps it’s hormones or a genuine sense of glee. But I’m just so happy.
At the same time I also can’t help sometimes feeling like a tremendous imposter. With family and personal life areas in mind I can’t always enjoy the this and that’s that I’d like to more regularly. I find ways to be more daring and enjoy more ways of wearing something in places and areas I may be foolish to risk it. But as happy as I am wearing. I’m equally as anxious at times. And can’t help but sometimes feel I’m just being stupid and ridiculous. I often want to just get rid of everything, requesting to delete the profile and go about my business but then I don’t cause I know this is just a happy space for me. Like a garage or under a car or gym to many. Mine is in my me time moments of being just a feminine version of self. But still just find often as happy as I am when dressing. I’m also just upset cause I feel foolish for enjoying it. Idk. Anyone else ever relate
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Yes… I can relate.
Over the last year, I have come to care less and less if people discover that I am wearing a bra. Still there is this tendency to feel like I need to “hide it”. For me, it gives me a feeling that I am doing something that I shouldn’t, and I do not like to feel that way. I long for the day when man or woman, we will just be accepted as “people wearing bras”.
I understand these feelings completely. I’ve felt the exact same way for years. Buying clothes, trying it on feeling guilty for having these feelings and throwing things away and denying. There is no escaping it, believe me, I tried. It always resurfaces after a while.
Happily wearing panties for some years now. Even happier with my wife knowing and accepting and making it possible for me to wear bras as well. I am working on my public appearance. Although it’s not exactly visible, I’m still very selfaware.
Try to embrace it. It’s a part of you. I’ve been there too. Enjoy when you can even if it is just in the privacy of your own home.
"Wear whatever you want as long as you feel good wearing it. For me it brought peace"
I am a guy wearing womens underwear. I understand now that it isn't a choice, it's who I am.
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Exactly. I sometimes I feel I’m living a double life. I know I’m not but it feels that way when I have to hide what I have in my drawer and closet or go braless and be uncomfortable to avoid situations that may otherwise be and it kind of sucks to not just be able to wear a bra or other things openly and be accepted and not questioned or gain suspicion of sorts.
I whole hearted agree. It does seem like a double life sometimes. I have just returned from 10 delightful days with family and never thought about dressing in my girly things but now I am back home it seems the natural thing to do. Like IJMD I sometimes want to rewind and wish I had never started but then again I feel so comfortable and complete when I dress en femme.
I can admit that there are times I have decided to not wear any bra, like when going out with family. Those times are becoming less and less as I become more comfortable wearing. I try to fight those feelings of embarrassment because l love wearing so much. This Christmas season, no matter where I’ve gone I’ve worn. Can’t say I feel like an imposter!
i just really wish wearing dresses and bras would become more normal for us guys. It seems as time goes by public attitude is shifting. I thing each and every one of us need to help keep it going!
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Today I am chilling out with my GF at her home. I’m in a nightgown and panties.
She does not want to see me en femme or in a bra, but does not mind this.
I’m happy with that. When I am home by myself I dress as the moment strikes me.
It may be all male, all female, or a combination. I just do what makes me most comfortable in each situation.
One whole dresser is dedicated to girly things as is much of my 10 foot wide closet, but I have been downsizing my collection.
The obsession seems to have dwindled which actually makes me more comfortable in my gender fluid skin.
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I would love to be able to be ‘me’ all the time and to be able wear my feminine clothing whenever, wherever without fear of judgement or condemnation.
Unfortunately that is not so and I’m limited in the main to when I have the house to myself. I wear panties 24/7 and that’s the norm with my wife. Bras are different and I wear one whenever I can.
My wife is not a supporter but knows I wear almost every day around her. If it doesn’t show she doesn’t care, even out in public nowadays. No wearing around around family and friends.
Outer wear is restricted to when I’m alone. Again my wife is well aware of the dresses, skirts, blouses, and high-heels that are in our walk-in robe and that I fully dress up when she is at work etc. She sees all the bras, panties, lingerie and occasional outerwear that gets laundered each week and says nothing.
It is not ideal, and its frustrating that I have to hide that part of me that makes me the person I am, and it has taken years to accept it is what it is.
I’m now content to accept what limited time I have being ‘me’, with my wife’s knowledge, than being deep in the closet. I’m happy with a little rather than none.
Cheers, Sailor
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I’m in the same situation. Wife knows, does the laundry, sees them, but I generally keep my wearing out of her site.
I underdress in stealth mode, so no one can really tell. I am just now thinking of letting her “catch me” as I am either putting on or taking off my bra. She goes to bed way before me, and wakes up way before me. I usually wait till she is on the phone or otherwise busy and then get dressed. She can walk in and see me but so far it hasn’t happened. Lately I leave my bra out after taking it off so she can see it in the morning on top of my clothes from the previous day. I’m wearing more and more so eventually she will see me. We will see if she says anything. In the past, she said it is “Creepy, But maybe I will get use to it like I did with the panties.” Here hoping.
Larry Arneson said
i just really wish wearing dresses and bras would become more normal for us guys. It seems as time goes by public attitude is shifting. I thing each and every one of us need to help keep it going!
My thoughts exactly!
If more men are seen wearing bras, skirts, etc., it will become more “normal”.
Bob
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Paul Wears BrasYeah not so much imposter to self but to others. I often feel a sense of if they only knew of sorts or double life type thing. Idk for some reason becoming as in tune to my feminine side as I have this last year it’s brought great joy but also great anxiety of I’ll never be able to wear this openly why am I even bothering having it to begin with and if wife friends etc knew what then
I, too, have felt the “double life” syndrome. In my case, I have felt I’ve had to sneak around my own house even though my wife is fine with what I wear at home and when we’re out together for the evening. The sneaking is do to my son who is living with us. He sticks pretty much to himself in his room, but I have to be careful.
So to fix it, after dinner a week or two ago, I asked if he had some time, I wanted to talk to him. He said yes so I told him I was cross dressing recently and wanted to know how he felt about that. He said he was ok and gave me a thumbs up. I had told by daughter about 6 months earlier and that fact was the thing that bothered him. With tongue in cheek, he said, “Once again, I’m the last to know.”
The other thing that has helped me is I’m now 78 and, frankly, don’t really give a s*it any more.
So, of the two, it’s the second one that led to the first one.
But every now and then the “stealth” sneek shows up. Today, I went braless because I was working to set lights for a new show I’m producing. I did it for the practical reason that I didn’t want to stain a pretty bra (mostly all I own) with sweat. I felt quite uncomfortable without it, as most of us who wear daily do, and when I got home, on went the bra. Not the “imposter”, but just trying to preserve my investment.
Bali
Yesterday I was out checking the mail in the lobby and started talking with a couple ladies there about some recent events here in the building.
One of the ladies kept glancing down at my breasts. I was wearing a really nice blouse from Torrid, some leggings, and a torrid 360 42 F bra. She is one of the ladies in the building known as the “Curious sort”, and she was dying to ask me the question. So I answered it first.
I asked her first if she knew what hermaphrodite was. She of course had no idea. I then explain to her that hermaphrodite is someone that is born with both sexes. She had heard of that but did not believe that could be such a thing. So I told her that I happen to be one of those but we don’t use that term anymore we prefer to be called intersex. I told her I do not take hormones and I’ve had no surgeries. I am exactly as God formed me. The breasts underneath this bra are real and all natural.
I then asked her the simple question, “are you going to condemn me now for wanting to wear support knowing that I have all natural 42 F breasts underneath this blouse?”
She of course answered no, but you could tell she felt very uncomfortable about the conversation.
I’m past the point of caring about other people’s opinions. I just go out as me on a daily basis and they will either accept me or they won’t.
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Thanks for sharing yall. I’ve been a bit quiet lately. Being online took its toll as much as it brought me joys. Over time I just needed to take a break and focus more on work and projects rather than keeping up with the few I chat with here directly or in chats or try to contribute in the threads.
Being in my late 30s I envy those who are older and established in life or retired and just at the stage of kids grown and out and have the freedom it comes with in we’ve been married long enough do what you want feeling lol.
To those comfortable with themselves it’s amazing to see and hear and it’s hopeful in their own ways to not feel so alone and ashamed about my own area of being male but identifying as and wanting to feel more female and feminine. I’m not trans but it’s clear I’m very feminine within. It sucks I never really got to explore this part of me when I was in my 20s and was so focused on relationships that I missed out on the relationship to build with myself. And now that I am, it’s difficult at best to enjoy it.
I really hate how some weeks I’ll be captain macho and in the gym not a distraction in the world just feeling like a man and feeling good. Then out of nowhere one day Elizabeth wakes up and may be a day or weeks before she takes a nap lol and it just leaves me happy but anxious and stressed by trying to be the man but feeling inadequate and just a loser. I just feel fake and ridiculous sometimes and it sucks having to suppress this feminine within that sometimes it’s better to just log off a bit and let her not get air lol
What took its toll was lately I’ve been so entertained by the idea of taking something to encourage breast growth. I don’t identify as trans but it’s no denying I’m more feminine that I thought I was and having gynecomastia already the idea of “I wonder if we could grow another cup size” has been gnawing at me and feel taking this past month offline has been a great benefit to just sort myself out lol.
I don’t think anyone really noticed or cared but thought I’d just update lol
Diet changes are the easiest and safest route for DIY estrogen increases. Try incorporating Flax seed and other estrogen rich food into your diet on a regular basis.
I was experiencing hot flashes and night sweats for years and the flax seed combined with red reishi mushrooms added to my homemade guacamole (that I eat everyday) resolved those issues..
Either use diet only changes or go through a doctor for medications. I wouldn’t just buy supplements as you might really mess your system up.
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Thanks Birdie! I took Red Reishi awhile ago in larger doses. Didn’t know it was larger but at 1500mg I found later on when I experienced issues in function and grew I think it was 1/2-3/4in in my bust that something was up. And hormonal tests showed and proved my T was wrecked and estrogen quite elevated and diagnosing it as Hypogonadism. I think I mentioned it on the gynecomastia forum when I was still on that forum but yeah, I later found Reishi is quite the estrogen herb.
I took it for joint and ligament health as on running forums I am on people would say it’s great supplement for runners in this area of joint pain. While it helped it also threw my body in to an imbalance.
Flax seed I hear is fantastic for breast health. Is there a product of Reishi and flax you take? Any adverse effects? I don’t know if I want to open the Pandora’s box of breast growth but I really feel I need to explore it.
Now I’m off the bus so I’ll share my recipe.
I add one heaping tablespoon of both flax seed and another of ground mushrooms in a 6×6″ tupperware container full of homemade guacamole.
3 large avocados, 3 large roma tomatoes, I bunch of cilantro, 1 habanero or two jalapeños, teaspoon of citric acid, teaspoon of cayenne pepper, black pepper, teaspoon of garlic powder, and 3 tablespoons of olive oil.
Blend in my Ninja
I eat 3 tablespoons of the guacamole everyday with my meals. My recipe has been reviewed by my dietitian and she is okay with it. I go salt free because of leg swelling, but you can add salt to taste.
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Birdie
You can only suppress it for a while.
There is something, I don’t know what, that is wired in our brain, that NEEDS this.
Don’t purge, Yes, put it in storage and see how long you an ignore the desire.
It may be weeks, even months, but there will be a strong desire you just can’t ignore.
Embrace it and enjoy.
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